Jeff has taken me to "his" fair every year since we have been together, (9 years!) with only one or 2 exceptions. I also grew up in a small rural area, so I really enjoy county fairs for so many reasons but seriously...it's all about the cotton candy for me! Really, I don't even care about the food, just give me cotton candy and I am happier than a kid at Christmas. And don't ask me to share more than a few small pieces. Ask Jeff. He barely sees any of it before I have woofed it down. Yes, I really am that obessesed with cotton candy. You could also ask Jeff's sister Rhonda for one of my first Darke County Fair experiences and the cotton candy, let's just call it "incident". Rhonda, feel free to leave out some of the details. :) It was funny, on our way out this year, I almost forgot to get my cotton candy. So right before we leave, I remember and run back to the closest concession stand. Jeff waited for me near a picnic area and when I got back to him, he was talking to some people about the girls...of course. So as we are walking away, I can hear the couple he was talking to, chatting with some other folks and then they say...."Oh my gosh, LOOK!, she's got 4 bags of cotton candy! Well, she probably needs it to keep up with those 3!" I was so embarrassed that I couldn't even turn around and laugh with them. It was true though... I bought 4 MONSTER bags of cotton candy and half of the first bag was gone before we even got back to Rhonda's house. I REALLY LOVE COTTON CANDY!
So we took our nephews Payton and Ethan with us and had a great day. The boys were a lot of fun and I think they had a good time too. They even rode a ride with Uncle Jeff!
Rhonda joined us a bit later and then we also were able to meet up with Jeff's friend from high school and his wife as well as a bunch of other friends. I got to walk in and out of over 20 camper trailers which always makes me excited for the day when we get to take the girls camping! Our friend Denise took our picture but it was late so the girls were already asleep, but I at least had to have proof that they were there!
We knew going into this day that we were going to "stand out" from the crowd, but I didn't think I would be one of the attractions! One of the guys at the ticket booth selling tickets for rides told us we should start charging admission for the number of people that had stopped us just while he was watching. It was a bit ridiculous. I am getting more used to it, and I can't expect to be incognito when I am following behind this monstrous stroller, but I am so glad we took the jogger instead of our inline train since it was easier to go over cables and hoses and gravel etc. Overall, people were just intrigued by the girls and "had never seen triplets before." So I tried to keep a smile and answer all of their questions and respond politely to their comments. BUT.....by the end of the day I started to get a little tired of all of the attention and didn't have much politeness left in me. So I was a bit perturbed after the following 2 incidents:
#1: Guy walking towards me with his wife and 2 children. I am walking with the stroller and my friend and Jeff and his friend are a few steps behind us but not within earshot. As the guy walks pass me he says to his wife:
Guy: "Wow, did you see that? TRIPLETS!--I would Kill myself!"
Me: *turning around so I can say it directly to him*
"Wow! that is a really rude thing to say!
His wife opened her mouth as if to apologize for her husband, but I didn't give them a chance. I just turned around and kept walking. I mean, come on....come up with something better. You'd be overwhelmed or crazy or TIRED....but kill yourself? Wow....you just made your kids feel real good about being your children. Now they know how much their dad loves being a dad. Nice.
I'm used to this comment now, but it still irks me.
#2: As much as I get the next comment/question over and over, I am still not used to it nor do I think I ever will be.
**Lady stopping directly in front of the stroller making me stop or else I would be running her over.(looking back, I should have run her over. :)**
Lady: Are those triplets?
Me: Yes, all girls! (said with a smile, but I'm so tired of people guessing genders, that now I just say it up front.)
Me: pausing, waiting for her to get out of my way.
Lady: So, um, were they normal?
Me: Um, they look pretty normal to me!
Lady: Oh, I just mean, did you have to do a bunch of drugs and stuff to get them?
Me: Uh, that's a really personal question! and then I just moved my stroller forward a bit so she would get the clue that our conversation was now over and to MOVE! *Meanwhile, I am thinking: "Yea, lady, if you do drugs and then BAM! go to the store and just put in your order, you too can have triplets! Seriously....where do these people come from?*
Getting up on my soapbox.....
Comments, like the one above, make me really think about our life. Does it really matter how we were blessed with 3 babies at once? Does it make a difference whether we had a little, a lot or no help at all to conceive these 3 beautiful, healthy babies? Why do people feel it's ok to ask? I know they are curious, but really...really, is it any of their business? I think all children are blessings from God and I don't understand why some people seem to"devalue" children that are conceived with a little extra help. I believe that this extra help is also from God, so really it's not an issue. I know this is a hotter topic for myself because we did need a little help to have children. I'm one of the lucky ones though. I was blessed after one round of medicine and the rest au natural...that's it, so I can't even imagine the trials of going through an IUI or IVF. My heart goes out to the couples who have to go through all of the next steps. I know we would have continued down that same hard path if we wouldn't have been successful at first. I also know that I would have felt blessed with one child after our years of being unsuccessful, but somehow, I hit the jackpot! God chose me and God chose Jeff to be blessed with 3 healthy, beautiful, happy little girls. I'm so lucky to be their mom. Does it really matter how?
Jeff says I should have just answered like this:
Lady: So, um were they normal?
Me: Well, after you share with me your name, age and weight, I will be happy to consider sharing such personal information with you!
or I think I could have just asked her if she had children and if so, how they were conceived....seems like the same question to me. ;)